THE WRITINGS

ON RETURNING AFTER YEARS AWAY FROM YOURSELF


December 23, 2024

BY ROMY DROUBY

There is a particular kind of distance a woman can travel from herself without ever leaving the room.


I have seen it many times. A woman who has spent years giving her attention entirely outward. To her children, her home, her family's needs, her work, her obligations. She is present everywhere except inside her own body. She moves through her days functionally. She does not ache in obvious ways. But when she finally stops, when she finally lies down on a mat and is asked simply to breathe, she does not know where she is.


This is not failure.

This is what devotion costs when there is nowhere to put it back.


The return is not a dramatic event.


It does not happen in one session, or one week, or one month of consistent movement. It happens in increments so small they almost do not register. A breath that goes a little deeper than yesterday. A shoulder that releases without being asked. A moment of stillness that does not feel like waiting for something else.


The body remembers. Even when it has been silent for a long time, it remembers what it felt like to be inhabited. And when it is given space, real space, not the space between obligations, it begins to speak again.


What it asks for, usually, is not intensity. Not transformation. Not a programme.


It asks to be noticed.


Arab women, in particular, carry a specific weight in the body. The weight of being seen by others before being known by themselves. The body that is commented on, covered, uncovered, judged, protected. The body that exists in relationship to everyone else's gaze before it exists in its own experience.


Part of the return is reclaiming that interior. Learning that the body is yours to know, not to perform, not to manage, not to explain.


In the practice, I do not ask women to push. I ask them to arrive.


There is a difference. Pushing implies the body is somewhere to get to. Arriving acknowledges that it is already here, waiting, patient, with everything it holds.


If you have been away from yourself for a long time, I want you to know: the distance is not permanent. The path back is not as long as it feels.


It begins with a breath.

Then another.

Then, slowly, a return.


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