THE WRITINGS

WHAT THE BODY HOLDS AFTER BIRTH


December 23, 2024

BY ROMY DROUBY

No one tells you that after birth, the body does not return. It arrives somewhere new, and you have to learn to live there.


We are given so many instructions for pregnancy. What to eat, what to avoid, how to breathe through the contractions. But the postpartum body, the body that remains after, is left largely unnamed. As though once the child arrives, the woman's body is no longer the subject. As though it has completed its function and can now step quietly to the side.


But the body does not step aside. It is still here. Changed in ways that are not always visible, and rarely discussed.


There is the physical reality: the shifted pelvis, the softened centre, the scar tissue that pulls in ways you did not expect. The heaviness in the pelvic floor. The way your back carries the weight of feeding and lifting and holding. These are not weaknesses. They are evidence of what you moved through. But they need tending, not ignoring.


And then there is the other layer, the one that is harder to name. The body you lived inside for years, the one you knew, the one you were sometimes at war with and sometimes at peace with, that body is gone. Not destroyed, but transformed. You are in a new body now. One that has held another life. One that carries the memory of that in its very tissue.


Many women feel this as loss. They reach for the body that was, and find it is no longer there. The fitness routines that once felt natural now feel foreign. The connection to the physical self has been interrupted. And in Arab culture, where a woman's body after birth is expected to either disappear into motherhood or rapidly reappear as it was, there is very little permission given to simply be in the in-between.


What movement can do in this season is not erase or restore. It cannot bring back what was. What it can do is something more honest: it can help you arrive. Help you begin to inhabit this new body with curiosity rather than grief. Help the breath return. Help the muscles remember they are yours. Help the nervous system, which has been in a state of constant alertness, begin to soften.


This is not about getting your body back. It is about getting back into your body. Into the one you have now. The one that carried and opened and endured. The one that is still learning what it is.


The return is not backwards. It is deeper.


<i> If you are in this season, the library holds practices made for exactly where you are. </I>


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